Sunday, September 24, 2017

Golden Anniversary

Today, my parents celebrate 50 years of marriage.  Yes, they waited 11 years to have me.  I don't know why.  My mother often talks about an old woman who asked her why she didn't have children yet.  The old woman asked her if she "has a problem".  My mother responded, "My problem is nosy old women like you."  If anyone told my mother something like that today in reference to being old, she'd have a cow.

They got married on Sunday, September 24th, 1967 at Sts. Constantine and Helen Greek Orthodox church in Chicago.  The church still exists, but the building that my parents were married in was eventually sold to the nation of Islam to be turned into a mosque.  So many from the church were so riled up.  It was actually kind of funny to me.  Guys- that's what happens when you stop going to church because it has become a "bad neighborhood".

My mom and dad don't know how to live with each other, and they don't know how to live without each other.  They made several plans and canceled all of them out of indecision.  All we're doing now is just going to church.  I asked snarkily, "Do you want to renew your vows?"  My mom said, "NO!"  Then after a few minutes, she said in the Orthodox wedding, you don't take vows.  The vows are assumed when you get engaged.  You are just "told" to honor and obey and given "the sacrament of marriage" as if it was communion or some kind of last rights.  I said, oh.  Well then, I wouldn't know that, since I didn't get married in the church.  My ex husband was raised in a Christian denomination (Pentecostal) that's on the shit list of Christian denominations you aren't allowed to marry.

I'm starting to wonder how mad they'll be if I stay home, or at least ask to be dropped off at the beach.

Friday, September 22, 2017

Loosing a friend to MLM

This isn't the first time this has happened. But it's the first time it's happened with a female friend that I felt very close to  

She and I met through an online class and chat all the time about everything. She's about a year and a week younger than me. She's really been a godsend. 

However, recently she bought into a multi level marketing, or pyramid scheme. Seems like now, it's just about trying to get me to join and not anything else. 

We used to talk all the time, and now that's all she can talk about. It feels like a loss to me. I hope that's normal. 

Monday, September 18, 2017

Book scrapbook

If I sound disjointed in this video, it's because I was trying to talk and read/skim at the same time.

Another new baby

No secret that I have an extremely large family, most of which are very fertile lately.  But, we just learned of this peanut's coming arrival in March.  This baby ^ marks a milestone for us- it means that both of my parents are officially the last of all of their siblings to become great-grandparents.  My mom is by far the youngest of 9, and my dad is the middle child.  This peanut will be my dad's younger brother's first great grandchild.  I made a huge deal about announcing Melissa's pregnancy to my father.  I think for a minute he thought I was going to tell him I was pregnant (It's a miracle!).  But I went through the whole family tree, and yeah- all of my parents' siblings are officially great-grandparents now.  I'd say that's a good Golden Anniversary treat, to know you are the last on both sides.

Sunday, September 17, 2017


I love this song and the video.  It's the perfect song for the Sandwich Generation.  I'm not lying.

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Viola Goals

Annalise wants to be this good at the viola.  For now, it's just screech, screech, but I believe in my daughter.

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Meeting cousins for the first time

My cousin Ray, who lives in New Port Richie, Florida, came here several weeks ago to help people file claims.  He arrived before we knew Irma would hit Florida, and when it became obvious that Irma would hit Florida, he flew his wife of 4 years and his grandchildren from his first marriage here to be with him.  Chase is 11 (14 months older than Annalise) and Mackenzie is 13.  Their mother had to stay in Florida, because she is a nurse and probable working around the clock.  I have kept in touch with their mom through social media through the years.  She's only a few days short of 1 year older than me and just turned 40.  We grew up together.
Mackenzie looks like her clone.  She also has that teenager "eye rolling" problem.  I just hope my child doesn't get that.  My mother kept calling her by her mother's name, and every time she did, major eye roll.  I kind of laughed.  It's not my mom's fault, she's old and Mackenzie looks just like her mother!

The good news is that Chase and Annalise were really hitting it off socializing. They play some of the same games and added each other on the games.  I checked Anna's phone this morning, and found Chase's profile.  One of the waitresses apparently had her own child with her at the restaurant and she sat with Anna and Chase, talking and laughing.  Me and my cousin and his wife and my mom looked up and Ray said, "Did we gain another kid?" Lol.

He also told me about an incident regarding his niece who is also my second cousin.  Her name is Elyse.  She apparently had a job training Dolphins for the Navy (I don't know what dolphins do for the navy, but my dad told me later that they send them out with bombs to bomb other ships.)   Elyse had been this dolphin's trainer since he was a baby, so he trusts her.  Then one day, dolphin jabs Elyse so hard in the side that she broke a few ribs.  Everyone was baffled as to why he'd do that.  Then they saw that there was a giant alligator in the water.  The dolphin was trying to save Elyse by pushing her out of the way of the alligator.

Poor thing.  He saved her life, and now he's about to go be bombed to death.  There is light and dark in the world, no matter how you spin it.

Meeting the kids for the first time was awesome.  This is why I want a road trip so badly, just to drive everywhere and see everyone.

My mother was very close with Ray's first wife, the kids' grandmother.  When we were saying our goodbyes, my mom hugged Ray's new wife and told her, "If he's not good to you, I'll cut his balls off".  That's just how my mom is, being from inner city Chicago.  She doesn't exactly have "nice girl" traits.  And you can't teach an old dog.

Ray's wife responded, "You have nothing to worry about."  My mom told me later that Ray has definitely changed for the better and his new wife probably had a lot to do with that.  She's a sweet lady.

I really want a huge road trip.